It's been a long-time coming, the implementation of assigned daily chores for the kiddos.
Brilliant Beauty will be nine in August and in these nine years we have had our share of times when we would create a sort of system for chores/rewards. But we've never hit the right groove with it. Something(s) was always not quite follow-through-able about these systems. I've thought a lot about it lately and think these are some of those factors for failure:
- elaborate chore lists (where chores changed everyday)
- too many chores or "wrong" chores (impractical, overwhelming, hard to maintain, etc.)
- clear expectations for chores, but unclear intentions on rewards
By these factors combined, we all eventually melt down into chore chart avoidance. They impose expectations NOBODY in this house can live up to.
I took some time to really think about getting the kids to help around the house. It all tends to fall to me, though you can all see from all the previous posts of cluttered messes and failed systems, I'm not capable of doing it all by my big self. I'm also not doing my kids, my very willing and capable kids, any favors by NOT putting on them reasonable and age-appropriate responsibilites and expectations. I need their help. And they need to help.
Based on my ponderings and attempt to think it through, along with a whirl around the world-wide web to see what suggestions I could find, I came up with a system that we have now been working on for nearly four weeks. Here it is...
- The kids (minus Pretty Baby for what should be obvious reasons...but we joke and say her chore is to be cute) were given two chore charts a piece: one for general tasks, one for kitchen tasks. They were also given one other chart for special jobs. Rather than making wordy charts I opted to create pictorial charts. P.S. There are lots of places on the web where you can go to find printable chore charts, but by now you know me, and I chose to just create my own.
- They earn a star for each chore completed. The stars can be combined to earn rewards.
Little Big Man's chores are the same everyday (I don't know why exactly I felt compelled to move the pictures around each day, but whatever). He has five "everyday" chores: brush his teeth, put his dirty laundry in the clothes basket, put books back on the bookshelf, throw trash away, and put his toys in the toybox.
Here are their kitchen charts:
Brilliant Beauty has to set the table for supper (plates and napkins) and then for the next day's breakfast after dinner dishes have been cleaned up, wipe down the table, give the dog water in his dish, bring dirty dishes to the sink, and sweep the floor.